I have managed to be in 3 guilds so far...in the four or so years I have played. Personally, my own opinion with regard to a guild is simply this:
I am in a guild because I enjoy 70% of the people in it. I am lucky with LoD in that I enjoy ALL of the members. Yes, I said as a rule, it is 70%. That is because I am old enough and have lived long enough to realize that I don't have to agree with everyone in the world...its gonna keep turning and the sun is gonna come up no matter what. The world does not revolve around me and who am I to think I must like everyone? I am more than positive not everyone in the world likes me...*smiles* but then, I am old enough too so that it really doesn't bother me one whit who does and does not like me. I do, try to keep peace in any guild I am in.
I have seen friends and not so close friends detag...leave for whatever their personal reasons are. The most they have ever gotten from me is "well you could have told me you were leaving, hope we are still cool"
Ask someone to stay?
Ask someone to come back?
PFFFTtttt. This is a game. Folks need to go where they will be happy and who am I to ask someone to stay where they are not happy? My own personal opinion is that if you detag, you should NOT be begged to come back nor should you be ALLOWED back, unless you have had a very long talk with your guild leaders before you leave and it was priorly arranged that you could come back, BEFORE you detag.
Course, that is my own opinion.
Folks come and go, but friends are friends regardless. I will never leave LoD. If I have a problem, I'll try to work it out within the guild. But then, I am a relatively loyal type person anyways..*smiles* and, it makes me HAPPY to be in this guild.
It is not for leaders to beg people to stay. I don't think they deserve the hassle of that mess.
Just my own opinion...and I don't envy any leader their job. Can't be easy, folks whining and crying to them all the time about trivial okey doke bullcrap. Games are posed to be just that...a game..we play because we wish to enjoy it.
LoD helps each other...it is progressively getting better and I have faith it will continue to be a good guild, for the members who enjoy it, regardless of how many folks feel the need to be somewhere else.
I agree wholeheartedly with Iaello
he should not have to ruin his game, trying to keep the rest of the world satisfied..we are, mostly, all adults aren't we? and the children who play...are learning to become adults. *smiles*
Hugs all around..in guild and out of it.